What I’ve learned from my teenage years…

May 18, 2014 by Kumbear Xo

OK guys, bit of a more serious post for you to get to know me a bit better. So as you may know I turned 21 last week and even though I stopped being a teen last year it has only hit me now. I have applied for a house, started financing my first car, going into my final year at uni and started setting out my desired career path – and it has hit me hard. I have changed dramatically over the last few years I almost can’t recognise the person I used to be. I’ve had break-ups & make-ups, family drama, suffered a traumatic accident, travelled the world, seen the consequences of cancer & dementia on my closest family members and discovered ‘the Secret’ all in which turned me into the strong, independent individual I am today.

So I want to share some of the things I have learned over my 21 years of existing:

1. Time heals all wounds

I actually considered getting the quote ‘this too shall pass’ on my body to remind me of this simple fact. All of the negative feelings, helplessness, depression, hurt & pain you may feel now will not last forever as once YOU overcome these events they are what make you stronger. It sounds cliche but it couldn’t be more true. Of course, sometimes in order to get through such times and see the pleasure of the other side it’s required to have help from friends, family and loved ones. It can also be very beneficial to look at mental health services such as looking at a clinic similar to Honey Lake for example. Using time to heal yourself alongside therapy and different treatments you could find that “this too shall pass”.

2. Less is more

Less make-up, less-fuss. What’s the point in wearing your full make-up bag every single day spending 1 hour in front of the mirror when that extra time could be spent in bed! Wear your essential make-up during the week – foundation, mascara, bronzer – then leave your weekend to transform yourself and go all out.

3. Count your blessings

Time is precious the average human lives only 27,375 days!! Make each day count don’t focus all of your energy on all the things you don’t have. Focus on all the things you do have and be grateful you are alive and breathing as there is too many people living in poverty and fighting for their lives whilst you think your life may suck now, there is always someone who is in a worse off position.

4. Always have respect for yourself

If you don’t love & respect yourself, no one else will.

5. Teenage acne doesn’t last forever

When I was growing up I would have periods where my whole face had erupted into unbearable pimples. But let me tell you, it won’t last forever. As soon as I hit 20, my face started clearing up and I couldn’t tell you the last time I had a pimple. I will give you my rule to deal with acne. Keep your routine simple. Don’t buy into the fake advertisements that offer harsh chemicals as solutions to improve your acne because it won’t, it will only aggravate it. A lot of people find a very natural treatment that works is CBD oil. There is plenty of CBD oil UK residents can purchase, as well as many available in the US as well. My personal advice would be to just stick to the simplest products out there, I like Simple & Cetaphil. Actually, some of the best advice I found was sticking to the Acne.org methods for dealing with acne – you should have a look at their website.

6.Choose who you keep close to you wisely

7. Karma’s a b**ch

Treat people how you want to be treated is my motto. Basically ‘you get what you give’ stick by that and karma won’t turn around and bite you on the bum.

8. Don’t sweat the small stuff

My hairs a mess, my body’s not perfect, I have a spot on my interview day .. etc etc. Don’t stress out over unnecessary things, because it’s simply not worth the hassle.

9. Do what YOU want to do

Who cares about what other people think it’s your life, only your opinion matters. Do what you want to do don’t listen to the naysayers. For example, my family didn’t want me to have a degree in fashion. Study law, study business they said. But I ignored them I choose fashion and did what I wanted to do and I love it!

10. Coffee tastes better with Carmel Syrup!